How to Talk About Sex | Sex Therapy in Orlando
Communication tools for couples avoiding tough conversations around sex and desire
Talking about sex can feel vulnerable, awkward, or even risky. Not because your partner is unsafe, but because the emotional stakes are high. Maybe you've tried to bring it up and ended up in an argument. Or maybe one of you tends to go quiet the moment the word “intimacy” is mentioned.
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
As a therapist offering sex therapy and couples counseling in Orlando, I see this all the time. One partner brings up a concern, the other gets defensive (or shuts down), and both walk away feeling frustrated and unheard.
But here's the good news: You can talk about sex without fighting—or freezing. These conversations can become a pathway to deeper connection rather than disconnection. Let’s explore how.
1. Shift the Goal: From “Fixing” to “Understanding”
Before you start the conversation, ask yourself: What am I really hoping to get out of this?
Most people jump in trying to fix something. That urgency creates pressure and often leads to more disconnection. Try this instead: make understanding your primary goal. When both partners feel heard, real change becomes possible.
2. Use “I” Statements, Not Accusations
Saying, “You never want to have sex anymore” is likely to make your partner defensive.
Try this instead:
🗣️ “I’ve been feeling a bit distant lately and I miss the physical closeness we used to share. I’d love to talk about how we’ve both been feeling.”
This kind of language creates emotional safety and shows that you're invested in connection, not blame.
3. Acknowledge the Awkwardness
It’s okay to admit that talking about sex isn’t easy.
🗣️ “I feel a little awkward bringing this up, but I know it’s important. I care about us and want to feel more connected.”
Naming the discomfort can actually reduce it—and help your partner relax too.
4. Time It Right (and Keep It Short)
Avoid bringing up difficult topics during stressful moments or right before bed. Instead, schedule a time when you’re both calm. Keep the conversation short at first—15 minutes is enough to start. Think of it as the first of many small steps, not a one-time fix.
5. Use Gentle Prompts
Not sure where to start? Try using open-ended questions like:
“What’s something you’ve always been curious about, but haven’t shared with me yet?”
“How did you learn about sex growing up?”
“When do you feel most connected to me?”
These types of questions can ease you both into a deeper, more meaningful dialogue.
6. When to Consider Sex Therapy
If talking about sex consistently leads to arguments or shutdowns, it might be time to seek outside support. Sex therapy offers a non-judgmental space where you and your partner can explore these topics safely and constructively.
Through couples counseling in Orlando, many partners find new ways to communicate, heal, and reconnect—not just sexually, but emotionally, too.
Final Thoughts
Talking about sex doesn’t have to be a source of stress or shame. With the right tools, and sometimes the guidance of a professional, these conversations can become an opportunity to grow closer.
Whether you’re struggling to communicate or simply want to strengthen your relationship, therapy in Orlando can help you move forward with clarity, connection, and confidence.
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Author Bio:
Tori Ricci is a board certified sex therapist who specializes in helping individuals and couples navigate intimacy and relationship challenges. With a focus on compassion, education, and practical solutions, Tori aims to offer a safe, non-judgmental space for clients to explore and address their sexual health concerns.
